You always have two choices, fear or love.

You always have two choices, fear or love.

My mom recently witnessed a traumatic accident that resulted in the loss of a man’s life. My mom is okay, and the people in my orbit that I know and love are okay, but having her be so close to the scene got me thinking about love and fear. I don’t know anything about the man who lost his life or his family, but as being close to these situations can do, it has made me reflect on life as I know it to be. Not only could our whole life change in an instant, so could the life of our loved ones and those we do not know. Feeling this in such a big big way brings nnot only a shift in perspective about life, but it also brings up questions about fear and love.

With every major decision, in every moment, in all that you do, you have a choice to choose living from a place of fear, or living from a place of love. You might think this is second nature, or simple. And some decisions certainly feel like they are. While others, well others are not so simple or clear. There are moments in life where we are faced with the decision to choose fear, or choose love, and maybe we stand in our own way, maybe we self-sabotage, or let past pains guide the decision, maybe outside circumstances have shaped your perspective to a point where you can’t even see the loving choice. Whatever it might be, if you can hold, and I mean hold with everything that you are the possibility of choosing love, you just might create the life that you dream of living. 

Choosing love looks like saying you are sorry. It looks like forgiveness. It looks like letting someone love you the way they know how. Choosing love looks like loving yourself, it looks like loving yourself through the moments of walking away from love. Choosing love looks like setting strong boundaries. It looks like holding yourself to the standards of the life and love you deserve. Choosing love looks like claiming your needs out loud, it looks like completing yourself. And choosing love looks like a thousand other moments, moments you get to define.

In life you always have two choices, you can swim in fear, and take the chance of getting stuck there, of holding yourself in fear and keeping life the same as you know it for fear of the unknown.

Or, you can play with love. In the world of playing with love you can experience explosive joy, and soul on fire happiness. You can also experience loss, pain, sadness. There is no confirmation that when you play with love you won’t also experience pain. But one thing is for sure, if you choose fear, you don’t get to experience playing with love. If you choose fear you don’t know what could be, might be on the other side.


You always have two choices, fear or love. What are you going to choose today?