To choose freedom liberates us all.
/Your stories, your pain, your frustrations, they are valid. They are understood by some, they are felt by many, and they are completely valid. For me, what I refuse to allow is for my pain, my stories, frustrations or fears to run my life. I refuse to allow my pain to drive, or to sit in my pain and frustrations for longer than necessary. That’s not to say there is a timeline on your healing, or on feeling your pain, in fact it’s the opposite.
I’m saying, feel your pain, allow your pain, your frustrations to be there, and when you are ready, pick yourself up off the bathroom floor.
There is a lot we can learn from our pain. Our pain has stories to tell, they have healing messages, lessons to learn, and heart-opening expansion to offer. And if where you are right now is in your pain, then that is where you are. May you meet yourself there with kindness. But you won’t be in pain forever, it doesn’t last that long, unless of course, you choose to make it do so. There is and will always be space for you to feel your pain, your trauma. Our nervous system post trauma requires some resetting and everyone’s reset looks different. What I invite you to ask yourself however is are you waiting for the reset to arrive for you, or are you inviting it in? To choose to feel your pain, heal through your stories is one thing. To choose to sit in suffering is quite another, and you don’t have to sit in suffering.
I cried for the world today. I didn’t understand it, or what I was crying for specifically, but I cried for all those in pain, for all the helpers. There are some painful things going on in the world right now, and so I wept for the world. It is important to create space for pain to move through us. Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor tells us that emotions take 90 seconds to wash through our bodies. That is to say that if you feel your feeling as it arises, when it arises, truly feel it, not suppress it, or let it drive you actions, but close your eyes, focus on the feeling, feel it, and let it move through your body. Then, all it takes is 90 seconds for that emotion to move through you and be released.
When you feel pain you have an opportunity to let the emotion move through you. When you allow this, it gives it permission to be released, as it’s ready to be released. When it gets released, it makes room for incredible things, more love, more synchronicities, universal flow.
To choose freedom from your pain doesn’t just free yourself. To choose freedom from your pain liberates those around you. It gives them permission to do the same, it gives them an opportunity to see another way of being, it gives them freedom from their own suffering, (when they’re ready of course).
To choose freedom liberates us all.
Suffering is not the way I choose to live my life. I choose freedom. And I hope I’ll see you on the freeing path.
If you’re ready to free yourself from pain or frustrations here are some journaling prompts that can support you and maybe even give you some release. And you know there’s always more breathwork or guided meditations from yours truly as well.
What emotions want to be washed through you today?
What pains, frustrations or fears, do you have? Write them down, let them move through you, and immediately go to the next questions.
Are you more comfortable sitting in suffering than you are possibility? How so?
What does it mean to you to choose freedom and to liberate yourself from your pain?
What tools, techniques, support systems can you lean on to support you in moving through your emotions?
